Pride Food
Jul. 9th, 2019 11:21 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mesotablarWe learn from our experiences. That learning influences how we approach concepts and situations in the future.
We can all agree on that, yes?
Well the thing I most find repugnant about the Asexual community is their cake. I don't like cake. I hated when people offered me cake pictures as a welcome on AVEN.
For some reason the Aromantic community have latched onto ice-cream as their motif. I don't like ice-cream. However the people on Arocalypse have the restraint to just stick to offering a small emoticon image of ice-cream in the aro flag colours.
Even though I dislike them both it doesn't stop me welcoming people with an ice-cream shaped pixel lump on Arocalypse. It has become my reflex reply to introduction posts, a welcome and an ice-cream.
I am trying to be a better person. Trying to drop my biases and preconceived notions.
I'm going to stop supporting the association of cake/asexual and ice-cream/aro. I won't begrudge others who continue to use it but for me it is a no.
I have found in the MOGAI depths of the internet orientations that take their name and basic description from foods. I just have noped out of it as being a step too far, and apparently I am the only one. If someone relates their being to a finished food product (and I'm not talking about the ingredients list words like 'pumpkin' or 'sugar', which are pet names rather than orientations) I see that as being linked to wanting to be a product. I don't see Icecreamgender or Sodagender as innocent things. My perception of them is too tied to dark places like cannibalism, self-harm and abuses.
I dislike that they are given MOGAI space as I can't take them seriously and ultimately think they are harmful. When people adopt the names of things to identify themselves, be it food or furniture, then I think you are a person willing to be treated as food or furniture. Orientations are to help communicate how you live or how you experience life, I don't think we should make light of that.
We can all agree on that, yes?
Well the thing I most find repugnant about the Asexual community is their cake. I don't like cake. I hated when people offered me cake pictures as a welcome on AVEN.
For some reason the Aromantic community have latched onto ice-cream as their motif. I don't like ice-cream. However the people on Arocalypse have the restraint to just stick to offering a small emoticon image of ice-cream in the aro flag colours.
Even though I dislike them both it doesn't stop me welcoming people with an ice-cream shaped pixel lump on Arocalypse. It has become my reflex reply to introduction posts, a welcome and an ice-cream.
I am trying to be a better person. Trying to drop my biases and preconceived notions.
I'm going to stop supporting the association of cake/asexual and ice-cream/aro. I won't begrudge others who continue to use it but for me it is a no.
I have found in the MOGAI depths of the internet orientations that take their name and basic description from foods. I just have noped out of it as being a step too far, and apparently I am the only one. If someone relates their being to a finished food product (and I'm not talking about the ingredients list words like 'pumpkin' or 'sugar', which are pet names rather than orientations) I see that as being linked to wanting to be a product. I don't see Icecreamgender or Sodagender as innocent things. My perception of them is too tied to dark places like cannibalism, self-harm and abuses.
I dislike that they are given MOGAI space as I can't take them seriously and ultimately think they are harmful. When people adopt the names of things to identify themselves, be it food or furniture, then I think you are a person willing to be treated as food or furniture. Orientations are to help communicate how you live or how you experience life, I don't think we should make light of that.
