This is my entry for the 2021 March Carnival of Aros: call out found here
To be or not to be...an International Aro Space
Kaurna miyurna, Kaurna yarta, ngadlu tampinthi.
-Acknowledgement of country
I have been trying to unpack my feelings about race. I have been spending lots of time reading articles about race, discrimination, privilege and implicit bias. I haven’t had to look too far to find articles on those topics, but I have had to look hard for articles that weren’t American*.
Many Americans don’t declare their US-ness in their articles, but they only write to American audiences, about American experiences. Many non-US writers make clear, either in their text, signature or choice of platform, where they are from. I have made very clear that I am Australian just so people don’t expect me to be American.
There is a sense on some websites the majority of people I interact with are not of my culture, yet they share a common culture between them. I declare myself Australian to discover where the other people are from, and 80% of the time they are American. The default of assuming English speaking people on the internet are American, male and young is breaking down but many US writers still seem to assume that their only readers are going to be people who understand, or are familiar with the intricacies of US culture or history. To the point where I believe I was reading articles wrong, the point wasn’t getting across.
When I first found the online Arocalypse.com community in 2017 I declared my Aussie-ness and the reaction I got, ‘Oh no not another Australian’. I was thrilled to stumble onto a pile of Australians in such a small online community. Do you know how many Australians it took to elicit that comment? How many Australians I was thrilled to find online?
There were 4 of us.
It also became clear fairly quickly that there were some people in the community where English was not their first language. There was talk of needing help translating definitions for other information pages to be able to get the word out about aromanticism. There were call outs asking for people speaking specific languages (though I’m not sure how many were found as they became private discussions). Topics organizing meet ups was on a global scale, a country here, a country there. We are a small population scattered around the globe, and it felt that way, it felt international.
Fast forward to 2021, there are more groups and more resources. There is a blog carnival creating content, there are monthly talks and discussions, there are activist groups getting awareness….but it seems the US content is starting to drown out that sense of internationalism. I haven’t seen an entry for the blog carnival in another language, the talks and discussions are timed towards people living on the conterminous United States. I know there are many varied people out there, but much of the content I find now has that familiar sense of being by Americans, for Americans, about Americans, though I can’t tell for certain because they lack national or cultural disclaimers.
Maybe I should take this as a hopeful sign? Those people asking for translations 4 years ago have not needed to return to an English speaking site because they have created a vibrant community of their own in their own language, but….
What of the people making discoveries now? people from countries where the framework is not yet established? Will they see these resources as International or American? Will discriminated against Americans feel better if there is more of an International feel to the aromantic spaces? Or will these sites and resources be so overwhelmed by American thoughts that any content in English language is attributed to a US viewpoint?
I don’t have answers to those questions, but I know I have not been part of the solution. I am a non-American voice, and I have been mostly silent over the past year. I am trying to get back into writing, into thinking, into loving my aromanticness.
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*Whenever I use the term American I am going to be referring to United States of America and its people. Sorry to the entire Continent.